Most of us have a tendency to date our classmates and/or co-workers nowadays, and that is a result of the huge periods of time that we spend on the office. When you dedicate too much to your career you end up never having time to go out and meet someone new.

It’s expected to seek closeness and companionship from your colleagues, but a lot of the times this friendship escalates to a serious relationship status and in most of the cases it fails, because you’re not prepared to face some of the risks of having a bond with a friend from work.

This article is aimed to those who spend a lot of time in the office and decided to date with a co-worker. First of all you should look at the benefits and disasters that could be associated with this move.

Make sure you check if the company where you are working has any dating policies, before asking someone out on a date. Some companies have strict rules about having a relationship with a co-worker, which I think is kind of stupid. Anyway, take some time to think about how much you are willing to risk your career for this relationship. Is it really worth it? Are you thinking about getting a serious relationship or not? Will you feel fine if you break up with her and then have to see her on a daily basis? What is she capable to do if things go wrong?

If you’re feeling a bit shy and you don’t know how to invite her out, you may ask more than one co-worker at first. Gather a whole group of people and ask her if she wants to come along. Don’t lose your hopes if she refuses. She’s just probably shy. In that case you should suggest something casual like dinner or coffee.

Make sure you know her well before getting romantic. I’m assuming you have an active office relationship with this person.

Once you start dating a co-worker you should establish some rules. You’re about to share two types of relationship with this person: romantic and business. Don’t let one interfere with another. If you’re dating a subordinate prepare yourself to be excluded from certain conversations.

Try not to distance yourself from your other co-workers and friends. The more time you spend with her the more you will distance from your other associates, even those you’ve developed personal relationships with.

That’s pretty much all. My experiences with dating at the office were all negative and I always advise people to be careful. But that shouldn’t stop you from trying. I’ve seen people making it work and it’s cool to have someone to lunch with and to flirt too.

Every romantic interest with a woman must begin with a warm seduction in order to expand into anything more. You cannot start out as friends and hope to turn it into romance later on. Seduction isn’t evil or immoral. It’s utterly essential.

Imagine this event: a guy is talking with a gorgeous woman. She’s amused with his jokes, tossing her hair back, and touching his arm as if she’s known him forever, but you know she’s only just met him. The nastiest part is that he’s not even good looking.

What could this guy possibly possess or know that permits him to be daring enough to jump in and attract beautiful women effectively?

He has:

• Self-confidence
• Sense of humor
• Self-control

A woman does not want to be forced or limited.

You cannot come on too strong or put her freedom at risk. If you do, she will fight back and disappear. You must always be an inch out of reach for her to feel comfortable letting you pursue her. She must by no means feel as if she’s attached unless she chose to commit. Women are obsessed with having fun for about the first 25-30 years of their lives. It’s typically only when she hears the biological clock ticking loudly that she abandons her carefree reality for some guy she can “settle down” with to have a few kids. Attempting to “lock her down,” the way most guys try to do with a beautiful woman, will fail.

A woman will feel fascinated by men who tease and confront her.

Teasing raises frustration, which starts her desirability. To the degree that you can stay indefinable and maintain the aura of a precious commodity (i.e., hard-to-get, wanted by other women) you will control her admiration and attraction. In other words, she needs what you do not easily give her. This is particularly accurate for women that are very good-looking. Since they were little girls they have been used to getting their way exclusively from being good-looking. Their egos are fed by regular worship.

You must find ways to knock her off her pedestal and bring her back down to earth.

Women are attracted to particular, positive qualities in men, and your performance demonstrates them. There is a set of specific behaviors that starts a woman’s attraction system for a man. You need to know EXACTLY what those behaviors are, and how to communicate them.

Sexual Power

There are a lot of men out there today with a lot of reserved rage over the apparently endless hoops guys have to jump through to get sex. This fundamentally comes from anger over women’s authority and power - the ultimate say-so or say-no. If you find you have a lot of this anger, or extreme animosity about the process of dating to get sex, you’ll have to find a way to let it go if you want to make any long-term success in the field of meeting and dating women. This anger is fixed in a deep-seated conviction that since women control the supply of sex, and you have the demand, they somehow own or control you. Nothing is further from the truth.

However, if there is a part of you that has a very hard time getting over it and accepting that women ultimately can and do say “No” to men, you may wish to seek counseling of some kind. The techniques and strategies enclosed here are for men with very little (if any) emotional baggage about women. Again, you have to love women, and you can’t be trying to change her if you want to seduce her. Think about how the world refers to sex. Men are expected to “get lucky” with women, as if all sexual success is based on rolling the dice and seeing who you end up with, and if she will or will not “put out.” Sex is a game of chance, according to popular belief, and if you try to learn the rules so that you can turn the game in your favor, you’re looked on as some kind of cheater.

Why not take a premeditated approach? Why would you leave your future up to fate when you have the ability to control your destiny?

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