Confidence is probably the number one feature that women take into consideration when they evaluate a man. Yes, I know, women often say that the most appreciated skill is sense of humor, but that’s what they believe. In order to achieve a minimum level of success with women you have to be confident, or learn how to be it. That’s what this article is for.

• Confident or arrogant?

Confidence’s worst enemy is arrogance. A confident guy would subtly reveal information about him, or expose his ideas carefully and that’s what works, while an overconfident person exposes too much about him and that becomes a real turn-off for women, which is something you don’t want. Believe me, women will tell the difference if you’re a real confident guy or if you’re faking it.
This article will show you detailed information about the differences between the confident man and the cocky youngster.

• Confident Vs Arrogant

Most of the differences lay on the outside. You can send out the confident vibe, if you act confident. Usually a confident man uses a relaxed, elegant posture, while the cocky guy is either slump or too much erect, like a royal family member. You don’t want that. Your eyes should establish contact with the ladies eyes, don’t roam all over her body as if you had her already. Show her that you’re not merely embarrassed by looking straight at her but don’t eat her with your eyes. When it comes to talking topics, ask stuff about her, but not too much, and concentrate on things around you. Avoid pulling out any of your deeds by forcing the conversation in that way. Your speech should be calm, relaxed and specific, don’t talk to loud, because that sounds like you’re forcing to show her that you feel confident about what you’re talking. If the topic passes around the future fields, tell her about you’re plans and how much you’ve been struggling to accomplish them. The cocky guy would simply say that he doesn’t need a plan in order to force the thought that he has everything under control.

As you can see, confidence has a lot to do with being subtle, and not forcing things. If you force things, women will immediately perceive that you’re nothing but a fake.

• How to build your self-confidence

As I told you before, it has a lot to do with how you look physically. It is related with how good you feel about yourself, so take notes on the next chapters.

• Dress well and groom even better

There’s always somebody better than you, but the more you improve your image the better you feel. You want to be the best dressed person in the room, which will lower your chances of feeling inferior subconsciously, which will manifest itself outside. By doing this you don’t just improve your performance but you will also give women more reasons to look at you. That’s two things you’re improving then. Take a look at some grooming articles if you need some help.

• Feed your dating mind

One of the things you should do, and some ignorant people look at it as being silly, is that you should tell yourself, and believe it, that you look good. The more you insist in this, the better. If your subconscious screams that you’re confident, you will act confident. Tell yourself how great you look, especially when you’re well dressed and groomed, and eventually you will believe it, consequently building your confidence.

• Calm yourself

A state of anxiety is something you don’t want to interfere with your confidence. It’s evident to the human eye when a person is nervous, because the gestures and the speech are not the same. There’s two possible ways of dealing with this, one goes through improving your social skills to a next level, by meeting new people and establishing social challenges. The other one is simply controlling your anxiety ticks and demonstrate a calm speech. It’s really simple to control yourself if you know the basics of body language. I would advise you to check these two articles. It should be enough to get you going.

• She does the talking, you do the walking

Letting a girl talk it’s what makes of you a good person to talk with. Of course you have to develop the conversation, by asking good questions and showing interest. When the time comes, say something wise about the topic, but your main objective is to keep the chatting going on with a cool vibe and get her number in the end. After that you will have lots of time to do the talking, and the walking.

• Practice practice practice

The more you try to act confident by following these guidelines, the more confident you will eventually become. It’s like everything in life, the more you do it, the more you get better at it. Confidence is a lot about feeling good with yourself and showing it subtly to the nearby people around you. Teach your subconscious and you’ll eventually become good at it. I can’t promise you that you’ll be the best but I guarantee you that you will be better.

Good luck!