Defeating shyness
Author: datinggun
6
Oct
Pretty much anyone would enjoy some fun Mexico vacations. There are tons of relaxing family trips to book with family and friends like ski resorts or even Hawaii vacations. Its nice to be able to take a vacation in the sun or enjoy other events on a vacation and get away from everyday life.
Dealing with the problem of shyness is one of the most frequent worries humans experience. The reasons for shyness are several. Studies say that common shyness is a problem related with genetics. There is a variation in how comfortable babies and young children are around people. Anyway, before I start this article I want to tell you that I am not a therapist, I am not providing medical advice. Anyone who believes they have a severe social disorder should get professional help. The tips summarized in this article may supply some help for some people, but there’s nothing like consulting a good therapist, if that’s what you need.
- I’ve mentioned this in our “Confidence” guide and some people may think this is silly, but before you go out to any social event, practice at home. Look in the mirror and practice your lines. Practice makes everything perfect. If you practice a lot you will feel more comfortable and your lines will come out more naturally.
- Pay attention to your posture. You should maintain a balanced upright posture. Don’t sway your back. Smile! Even if you feel shy, keep a natural smile on your face. That will make of you a more approachable person, and the people around you will feel more comfortable.
- Join a support group to find other people with the same troubles. The support groups are usually small, informal, understanding and very friendly. I guarantee that you will feel really good in a support group. Try to be active by helping others and letting others help you.
- Talk slowly. One of the aggravations when you’re shy is that you can’t put the words out because you’re nervous. If you talk slowly you’ll express yourself better. When you first meet someone talk about basic subjects and discover what you might have in common with that person. After a while you will forget completely about your shyness problem.
- Don’t be frightened by those who have a higher status, such as teachers, police officers, etc. They’re human beings just like you and I, no matter what authority they have, they think as normal human beings and have the same feelings.
- Finally, the most important thing you can do to overcome shyness is to believe in yourself. You can do anything you set your mind to! I know it sounds like cliché, but it’s the truth.
Overcoming shyness is not just important for your dating success. Shyness is related with everything in life. You confidence will be the most important factor in your life. If you want to know more about the Confidence topic, check out this brief article about it.
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5 Responses for "Defeating shyness"
I am so intensely shy I can’t even conceive of the idea of meeting a shrink. But on the internet I have confidence. Most of the time my shyness is to do with a heightened consciousness of body language, my own and others. It also has to do with being extremely sensitive.
Hello Ireland!

A sensitive person tends to be more reserved, that’s ok. I am shy too. I’m the kind of person who doesn’t like to speak to big audiences and I can’t stay at a cocktail party more than 15 minutes. The best friends I’ve ever had were all shy, but they were there for me when i needed, unlike the other popular kids. Keep your sensitivity and if you’re having trouble either in school or work because you can’t express yourself, then it’s all about your confidence. Confidence it’s about how good you feel about yourself, and that post over there shows that you have confidence potential.
Well, that’s all i can say to you based on your post. Good luck and keep on disliking taking life too seriously.
I used to be extremely shy too. Then, one day, I realized that the rest of you are just as weird, confused and insane as I am. Something “clicked”, and I suddenly saw the conforming ego-mass of modern society for what it is.
People are like bears; they are more afraid of you than you are of them.
The next time you find yourself embarrassed or nervous from a social situation, just take a moment to remember that everyone else- even the party-animal extroverts- are secretly terrified- just like you.
If that fails, try alcohol. It’s cheaper than Paxil, and far less dangerous. Booze is nature’s original cure for “social apprehension disorder”.
I couldn’t agree more Zaphod! Don’t forget my Drug Czar position when you get to the white house.
Hi Dating gun
I think I have good confidence. As a sufferer of social anxiety I know that confidence is not the issue. Body language is a major barrier for me because unlike the internet it can put forth allot of confusing messages and at times it dose overwhelm me.
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