First of all I would like to applaud you. If you’re going on your first date with a girl, then the tough work is complete. You developed the necessary confidence levels and approached a woman. You most likely got her number and you’re ready to call her and ask her out. This article is about the next step, the first date, which will grant you a second date, if everything runs smoothly.

Good dating places

The objective of the first date is to get to know each other, and you can only achieve that by communicating. The golden rule here is to avoid places where you can’t talk, like the movies. A lot of people take their dates to movies, which is a big mistake, because you will end up not knowing her.

This may sound as cliché, but the best thing to do is either have lunch or dinner, it doesn’t matter if it’s at home or in a restaurant. The important thing is that you establish a conversation with her and get to know her better. Check our article on dating activities if you like.

Homework

Everyone knows that silence in date might turn into failure. A good way to make sure that you will never run out of material to talk about is to simply read about current happenings. Everything from newspapers, showbiz gossip etc. Don’t bring complex topics to the table, unless she wants to. Just in case you have a bad memory keep some of the topics handy. The result is that you won’t probably touch them because you’ll feel confident knowing that nothing can go wrong.

Dialog on a date

I’m going to leave here some examples of what you could ask during the date, and also the right timing to ask/say it.
By the way, if it makes you feel more comfortable you can prepare a loose plan of what you would like to talk about. You probably won’t need it, but you’ll feel safer.

1- The foundations

Ask questions about the atmosphere around you two. Ask them questions about the menu, and what food or wine they prefer. After this small introduction, raise the personal factor by asking her about her work and if she enjoys it.
Examples:

• Do you like having wine with your meals?
• Is there something interesting our something new on the menu?
• Where do you live? Is it far from here?
• What’s sort of work do you do? Are you enjoying it?

2- Conversation key path

Ask her about what she likes to do when she has free time. Ask if she travels a lot or if she ever met cool places and try to remember something she mentioned previously and expand it.
Examples:
What do you like do on your spare time?

• Have you ever been to other countries? Which ones?
• Are you going to travel soon?
• What’s the coolest place you’ve ever been?
• What places would you like to travel in the future?

3- The great final

By now your main objective is to obtain the next date confirmation, in case you haven’t secured it already. If you haven’t already follow the next tip:
Unless she’s a very strange person, she will include movies in her list of things she likes to do. When the right time comes, ask her what movies she would like to see. When she replies, tell her how much you would also like to see that movie as if it was a great coincidence. If you did everything right she will probably won’t waste that chance to invite you to join her on that occasion.
Last words

1. Do your homework and prepare some topics:
2. Listen to what she’s saying (actually);
3. Develop the topics, ask questions;
4. Enjoy the moment. Above it all, have fun.