The rejection myth

Author: datinggun

8 Oct

First of all let me demystify something here because there’s this fairy tale saying that attractive girls are always being hit on, that your chances with them are almost negative. But let me tell you what usually happens on a bar crowded with beautiful girls.

The truth is that the ladies are almost never hit on. There’s a lot of guys in the bar clearly glancing at the girls, but the girls are waiting for them to take the first step, and they wait, and wait, and then they wait a bit more. The thing is it just never happens. Sure the guy will pass by her at least fifty times, looking her up and down, but as for actually approaching and saying something, it hardly ever happens.

One thing I can assure you is that in this kind of panorama, if you show your high level of confidence by making an approach and state clearly that you’re interested in her, she’ll give you a fair shot. She will never think of you as a jerk for being so forward. To be honest she will think the opposite, she’ll appreciate you for being so honest and so secure of yourself, and as long as you say something witty and funny, she is sure to find you at least a little attractive, no matter your looks.

Here are a few, quick tips:

Let the girl know that you’re interested in her. Don’t talk about how good the atmosphere is on that bar or how great the decoration would be if they had more light! After greeting her and asking her what her name is, the next question should be: “Are you dating someone?” That will grab her attention right away, and will let her know that you’re attracted to her;
Take a look at the things that attracted you to her and start flattering about those attributes. On a primary phase, just talk about the things that attracted you above her neck;
If she authentically seems indifferent, retreat. Don’t waste your time with a frozen queen;
Try not to be too embarrassed or uncomfortable. You’re a man. There are things you want and things you need. Don’t be embarrassed about it. There’s nothing wrong with needing a little action now and then;
Try to be discreet when you’re interacting with her, she doesn’t want to give her phone number in front of 50 guys because she might feel kind of cheap;