Trapped in the “friend zone?”

Author: datinggun

6 Oct

Just about anyone can enjoy some fun Hawaii vacations. There are many exciting family vacation trips to take with the family like vacation Hawaii or even cruises. Its nice to be able to go on a trip in the sun or enjoy other things on a family vacation and get away from everyday life.

Everyone probably knows what the “friend zone” is. Even Jerry Seinfeld mentioned it in one of his shows. Anyway, the “friend zone” is when a woman takes the best of you (strength, sense of humor, company, etc) without giving the best of her. Seinfeld made a very good analogy about this: A guy in the “friend zone” is like a tampon, you can ride a horse with it, go to the pool or even sleep with it, but you can’t have sex.

How do you know you’re in the “friend zone?”

Do you hear these phrases? “I can talk to you about anything,“ “You‘re really a nice guy,” “You‘re like a brother to me,” “You‘re my best friend,” and “You understand me.” If you do, then you’re already trapped. Another way to know if you’re in the “friend zone” it’s when you finally get the guts to ask her for something more and she tells you: “I don’t want to risk our friendship,” “I don’t want to risk losing what we have,”. Being asked for advice about men she’s attracted to it’s also a bad sign. I don’t want to be pessimist but if you heard all of this, the odds are against you, but there’s still hope and that’s what we are going to talk about next.

Escaping the “friend zone.”

A lot of guys think that being a romantic counselor will get them to a girls heart. This trick may sell a lot of romantic comedies but it doesn’t work in real life. If she thinks you’re her friend she won’t even considerate the possibility of having sex with you. So, what’s the way to escape the “friend zone”? Keep reading.

1- Get yourself a life.

Don’t stare at the phone waiting for her call. Keep doing your thing and if she calls you when you’re busy, tell her you can’t talk with her at the moment. If you’re not busy, pretend. Just make sure you have other things to do instead of being ready for her drama. If she tells you that you’re not paying attention to her anymore, you should invite her to go out as an excuse for not paying so much attention to her.

2- She’s not alone.

Star checking the other girls around you when you go out with her. Strike up a conversation with some of them and let her watch. If she shows any sign of jealousy then you’re on the right track. She will probably understand what you’re doing and she will try to knock you down by talking about other guys but don’t let her destroy your hopes. Just pretend you’re really interested in what she’s saying and ask her about those guys. Not only you will surprise her but you will also get more info about the kind of guy she likes.

3- She’s not good enough for you.

Tell her about your past deeds with girls. Make her understand that you have principles and values when it comes to choosing the right girl. When you describe your past lovers, try to explain the good things and the bad things. Don’t be afraid to associate some of the bad things to your potential girlfriend. She won’t feel very comfortable but she will think she’s not good enough for you. That will motivate her to try harder to show you that she’s better than every other girl you’ve ever been with.

4- You’re a human male. You like sex.

Don’t be afraid to bring up the sex subject to the table. You’re her best friend and friends talk about everything with each other. Tell her about the girl who knew exactly how to please you and what she did that was so great. That will make her think that she’s fighting against Samantha Jones from “The sex and the city”. After telling her your love life, make her talk about hers. Ask her what turns her on. If she feels offended, tell her that you’re friends, and you just want to know what turns her on so you can apply it to your other dates.

5- Compliment her, slightly.

Tell her how special she is and how pleased you feel for being her friend. She will return the compliment. Tell her that she looks really good on some outfit, and joke about it, tell her that she shouldn’t wear that dress when she’s near you because it drives you crazy and that will ruin your friendship. Pay attention to if she continues to wear the outfit and consider it a colossal indicator that your game is working.

That’s it guys. Keep in mind that getting out of the “friend zone” might take months, and sometimes it will not work. Don’t forget that having a life and having other girls around you is a must. Show her that she’s about to lose Mr. Best Friend to another girl and she will react. If things don’t work out, don’t break your connection with her. Some girls simply like you as a brother and there’s nothing to do about it. Keeping the friendship is the best you could do, because you’ll have your “sister” pulling the strings for you. She will tell her girl friends how great you are, and you’ll score a lot more.